resolutions?

so i was sitting at the bar chatting with a couple of friends on sat night and someone threw out an unsurprising question with an unusual twist. typically this time of year people ask what your resolutions are and this was the gist of the topic, but although i can't remember exactly how the question was posed, it was qualified somewhat like this, "none of this i want to lose ten pounds bullshit, i'm talking real overarching, big picture, life goals for 2010." not that losing 10 pounds isn't a valid target and informally i had thought about trying to do certain things like read more, exercise more regularly, and re-organize myself and my stuff in 2010, but i actually had to sit there and think for a while about how to answer the question. i tried to articulate some ideas a couple of times with minimal success, until i finally came up with something that made sense. yesterday i actually wrote it down, or typed it, anyway while gchatting with a friend, so i thought i'd put it here (ya know, since publicizing things on the interwebs somehow makes me feel more accountable)... so here goes:

"i was sitting there thinking about it... trying to focus my thoughts on goals for the coming year (since 2009 was loosely about restoring the things in my life that bring me joy, but that wasn't really pre-meditated, it kind of formed as a theme as the year went on). and what i came up with was that i'd like to focus on relationships (friends, family, whatever) that are fruitful, not ones that bring me frustration and angst. and to accept that not all people nor my interactions with them will reach the potential that i'd hope for, but that's not anyone's fault, and it's not something i have to fix."  
and there you have it.